Meeting with a College Coach

Congratulations! You have successfully scheduled a meeting with the college coach of your dream university. This is your time to make a lasting impression and to stick out in a positive way.

As a college coach I want to meet the athlete to see if he would be a good fit for my program. Most athletes bring their parents to the meeting as well which is fine. I’m interested to see how the player interacts with his parents. Is Mom doing all the talking? Or is the athlete always looking for reassurance from his parents before answering questions? Keep in mind, I am recruiting the player, not the parents. I want mature players on my team, players that are responsible and independent, players that can make their own difficult decisions and I want players that can think freely and on their own.

I understand that picking a college is a major decision and it’s a decision that needs to be made as a family, especially the financial considerations are often the decision of the parents and not the child. However, I’m amazed how many times the parents are actually the ones doing all the talking. It immediately raises red flags for me. If the athlete is shy, too bad. It is time to step up and be your own person!

A couple of days before the meeting

My last blog entry discussed what you needed to do to get a college coach to notice you. Now you have your meeting set up and you need to do some more homework before the meeting. Educate yourself about the team roster and the game schedule. Ideally you should have watched the team play before your meeting with the coach, either in a game or in a practice. This gives you a general idea of the level of the team and if you can see yourself play for the team. It also gives you a perfect conversation topic for your meeting.

You should email the coach a couple of days before the meeting to confirm the time and the location of the meeting. This shows professionalism and maturity. I also suggest that you bring a copy of your game schedule in case the coach hasn’t seen you play yet.

Meeting Day

On the day of the meeting you will probably be a bit nervous. This is ok. Just take a deep breath and have a couple of questions prepared and you will be fine. Make sure to be on time for the meeting and dress appropriately. I don’t think wearing a suit or khakis is necessary but some coaches might be more old school than I am. Baseball caps and baggy or ripped jeans are a no. Remember you want to make an impression and represent yourself the best you can.

Questions to Ask?


This is the only way you are going to find out if the coach has a serious interest in you and how he or she sees your role on the team. Also, if you are not asking any questions, a coach might think that you don’t have a serious interest in the school or the team. This also gives you an opportunity to ask questions about the school and academics, about the area and campus life and about the goals and expectations of the team and you as a player. Keep in mind that you are the one doing most of the talking and the interaction and not your parents, especially when it comes down to the soccer specific questions.

There are numerous questions that you can ask a college coach and I’ve decided to list 5 questions related to soccer that I think a college soccer coach should be able to answer.

1. How do you see my role in the program?

2. What fitness requirements do you have?

3. How big do you typically keep the roster?

4. What are your future goals for me and for the team?

5. Would you consider offering me an athletic scholarship?

The above questions are not yes or no questions and ideally you want to have a back and forth conversations with the coach. Don’t be afraid to have follow- up questions before you move on to the next question. The first question is a very important question and can dictate the whole meeting. If the coach answers that he sees you as a role player with limited playing time as a freshman and your expectations are that you are a starter and should play every minute then you might have a problem. Make sure that your expectations are in line with reality. Again, if you have studied the roster and educated yourself about the current players on the team, you should have a good estimation on how you fit on the team.

The coach might be very specific with some of the questions such as fitness tests and roster size. If the coach sees you as an immediate starter on the team, he/she should also probably be able to offer you some athletic scholarship. (NCAA Div 1 and 2 offers athletic scholarships) If the coach says that you will be a role player or a practice player and that you will compete for minutes then athletic scholarship might be limited.

Once you feel that you have gotten all the answers from the coach you can finish by asking the coach if there is anything else you need to do to move forward with the process. The coach typically has a lot of experience with this type of meetings and he/she will be the one to make the meeting move forward and to end on a good note.

After the Meeting

A student who takes the time to meet the coach generally comes away with a decision on how they feel about the coach and the program. This is a time to reflect over your meeting and to discuss with your parents. Either way, make sure to follow up with a thank you email to the coach after the meeting. Thank him/her for their time and if you have any more specific questions or something that you feel you missed you can ask or mention that in this email.

Lastly, remember that college coaches are just regular people too! There is no reason to be nervous. If the coach has a genuine interest in you, you will feel it.

In Pro Sports the coach typically chooses (by a draft) his players, and in college the players choose their coach. You still have the power to make the decision based on your feeling.

If you are not comfortable with the coach or don’t like his coaching style (another reason you should go watch a game) then simply follow your gut and move on!

Good Luck with the college search!

Yours in Soccer,

Andreas Lindberg

Andreas Lindberg is the site director for Future Stars at Farmingdale State College. Lindberg is also the current Head Coach for Nationally ranked LIU Post Men’s Soccer Team. Under his guidance the Pioneers won the East Coast Conference Championship in 2009 and 2012. Lindberg was chosen to the East Coast Conference Coach of the Year in 2009, 2011 and 2012.


Ralph Waldo Emerson famously stated, “Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.”  In my humble opinion, there is no greater truth.

As you are reading this, I want you to think back and remember your favorite teacher.  Now think about your favorite coach, or neighbor.  What do all of these people have in common?  I bet that they were all enthusiastic; they all had a zest for life and their energy inspired you.

Now think about the most successful people at your workplace.  If you are still a student, think about the students with the highest grade point average, or are the best actors, or best athletes.  Guess what they all have in common.  Yes!  You guessed it, an insatiable, interminable, supply of energy and enthusiasm.

Okay, so we have established that enthusiasm is probably the most important building block to success.  Assuming we all want to be successful, the question is then how do we become more enthusiastic?  How do we become more like that amazing third grade teacher that always greeted us with a smile and knew the answer to every question about dinosaurs?  The answer is not that simple, but here are some suggestions:

  1. Choose a career that you absolutely love.  For me, I teach and coach.  I get to interact with kids on a daily basis, and I am lucky to enough to learn from them, and I hope that they learn from me.  It is a mutually fulfilling relationship that I cherish, and for that, I am enthusiastic about my job.
  2. Spend your time around positive people.  If I have never met you, I can guess what kind of person you are by meeting your friends.  Surround yourself with good people, and the power of attraction takes root.  Surround yourself with negative people, and your whole outlook on life changes.
  3. Seek out a hobby that you are passionate about.  You may not have one right now, and it may take some trial and error to find one, but your life will change once you do.  Personally, my hobbies have changed over time.  That’s normal too.  What you were passionate about when you were twenty-five may not be appealing to you at forty-five.  What’s important is that you have something to look forward to that pushes your mental status quo outside of its comfort zone.
  4. Cherish your daily routine.  We all get bogged down in the routine of life.  Instead of looking at it as a necessary evil, change your mindset and be mindful of your chores.  Take pride in them.  Notice the smell of the detergent and the feel of the fabric as you do the laundry.  Pay attention to the smells of the lawn as you mow and trim bushes.  Noticing the small things and taking pride in them can completely change your world.
  5. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.  We have all been knocked down at one point or another by a life event.  We may also feel like every day is “Groundhog Day”, and we don’t know how to break the cycle.  These are the moments, when we need to reach out.  We live and work in COMMUNITIES; entities based on communal interaction.  Ask and you shall receive.

Here at Future Stars the most glaring common characteristic of our employees is a sense of enthusiasm; a sense of I’m willing to try this and I can’t wait to try that.  We feed off of each other’s energy, and that creates a special work environment.  We are grateful that so many have entrusted us with the caretaking of their children, and hope that they have felt inspired by us, in the same way my third grade teacher did for me.

Note: In John Wooden’s ‘Pyramid of Success,’ enthusiasm, along with industriousness, serves as the foundation.


March Madness Tidbits

For those that cannot get enough of the NCAA basketball tournament, we have compiled a few “interesting” tidbits for you this week.


Information about picking your brackets that will not help you

  • According to DePaul University math professor Jeff Bergen, your chances of getting every single pick correct are roughly one in 9.2 quintillion.
  • Put another way, your chances of getting every game right is 1 in 9,223,322,036,854,775,808.
  • Only once have all #1 seeds made the final four (2008)
  • Only once in the past 16 years have all 4 of the #2 seeds survived the first weekend  (2009)
  • At least one #4 seed has lost a first round game each of the last 5 years
  • While #6 and #8 seeds have won the title in the 1980s, a #5 seed has never won the title. The #7 seeds have never reached the finals, reaching the final four only once
  • A #16 seed has NEVER upset a #1 seed
  • Only once have the numbers 13, 14, and 15 seeds won a round of 64 games in the same tournament, which was in 1991, according to ESPN
  • According to ESPN, 27.3 percent of tournament games have been decided by three points or fewer (or went to OT), in the past three years.

Does DNA Help?

  • Shane Larkin, Miami’s leading scorer and a John Wooden Award candidate for national player of the year, is the son of 1995 NL MVP and baseball Hall of Famer Barry Larkin.
  • Gonzaga Junior guard David Stockton  is the son of Gonzaga’s most famous basketball alum, John Stockton — but John never reached the NCAA postseason.
  • Southern Senior 6-9 center Madut Bol, son of the late Manute Bol is a role player for the Jaguars.
  • Notre Dame Junior G Jerian Grant is the older brother of Syracuse freshman Jerami. The two are sons of former NBAer Harvey Grant.
  • Michigan junior guard Tim Hardaway Jr and freshman forward Glenn Robinson III’s are sons of former NBA All-Stars with same names. And sophomore forward Jon Horford is son of former NBAer Tito Horford and brother of Atlanta Hawk Al.

NCAA Student-Athletes

Kansas State’s media notes call it “a tremendous semester in the classroom” — the Wildcats’ cumulative 2.839 GPA during the 2012 fall semester was the team’s highest in 12 years.

Harvard’s trip to the NCAAs may be more gratifying to Amaker and the Crimson after a major academic scandal involving cheating forced this season’s senior co-captains to withdraw from the school.


Wichita State nickname – Shockers

Feel free to post any of your own useful or useless facts about the tournament.



As a high school Spanish teacher, coach of varsity golf and junior varsity basketball, and director of a summer camp, I am particularly sensitive to the leadership potential of the team members of which I lead. Through my experiences, I have found that leadership manifests itself in numerous ways within numerous personality types, but the common thread among all good leaders is that others consistently follow.

Every Tuesday at our multi-sports camp at SYS, Southampton, we focus on leadership and design activities and games that promote and foster opportunities for the campers to lead. Orienteering, scavenger hunts, and many Olympics and Color War events require the campers of all ages to collaborate and work towards a common goal. This collaboration inevitably leads to certain campers stepping into leadership roles, as we design said activities for the counselors to monitor and observe, not direct.

What we as a staff notice is that the most effective leaders are not always the loudest. Many of our best leaders, in fact, remain calm, cool, collected, and speak only when absolutely necessary. Otherwise, they let their actions and how they treat their teammates serve as the model for their team dynamic. What we notice is that the teams that are led by campers who have a genuine interest in the well-being of their group members, typically outperform those teams that are led by those who want to win ‘at all costs.’

So the important question is, “Why is this the case?” Why do certain leaders compel others to perform at their best, while others, despite their best interest, aren’t as successful? While it is solely conjecture on my part, here is my best attempt. In order to be a great leader, you must first and foremost be a great person. You must have a genuine and innate desire to see those around you succeed, not for your own benefit, but for the benefit of the greater good.

We, as a society, need to focus more on promoting leadership qualities within our youth, and there is no better forum than athletics to achieve said end. In athletics, as in life, we will need to overcome setbacks, perils, and obstacles. Only in the face of challenges do we learn how to be better people, and in the face of challenges we need people to lead more than ever.

If you are a parent, seek out local community leaders, coaches, or teachers that embody leadership qualities and encourage your child to spend time with that person or those people. Spending time around good people who are also good leaders is invaluable. We are lucky to have great people and leaders at Future Stars, so you can always send your child to us!

College Recruiting – how do I get a college coach to notice me?

Many times parents and players are seeking information on the recruiting process and how to go about being noticed by a college coach. There are so many questions to ask and so much information to process. When do I need to apply? How important are test scores and grades? How do I contact a coach? Do I need a video? What is the eligibility center?

Even though each school and each coach deals with recruiting differently I think that there are a couple of general statements that are true for everyone:

–      Do well in school

–      Do well on the SAT’s or ACT’s.

–      Look for a school that has your major

–      Try to be realistic when it comes to soccer

When it comes to the soccer team – DO YOUR RESEARCH!!

Educate yourself about the team and the conference. Go and watch a game or two so you know the level, the team’s style of play and see for yourself how the coach is interacting with the players and what type of coach he or she is. I personally think that this is very important and something that many players and parents forget during the process.

LIU Post Men's SoccerECC Champs 2012

LIU Post Men’s Soccer
ECC Champs 2012

Communication – How To Stand Out In a Positive Way

According to NCAA less than 6% of boys high school soccer players will go on and play soccer at a NCAA institution. That means that out of 100 graduating seniors only 6 of them will have a chance to play soccer in college, at the NCAA level. Figuring that each high school soccer team has about 8 graduating seniors it would have to take two highschools to find one college soccer player.

(The percentage is slightly higher for women soccer players and the percentage is less than 4% for both men and women basketball, statistics for more sports can be found at the link below)

I receive over 50 emails per week from players, parents and recruiting agencies with player resumes, videos or general emails. Most of these emails I directly delete and the biggest reason for this is that the email isn’t customized for me specifically. It is obvious to me when the email is sent out as a mass email. My name is not included, it simply states: “Dear Coach” and the name of my school is not included, it says “Your School”.

If the interested student athlete doesn’t have the time to customize their email, I simply feel that I don’t have the time to send them a reply email either. It doesn’t take much to stand out. I strongly suggest the student take the time to customize the email. Address the email to the coach with the coach’s last name (make sure you spell it correctly!) and mention that you have looked at the school’s and the team’s website.

Maybe a line about a recent game or an upcoming game?

Example:  “Coach Lindberg – Congratulations on a great result vs ABC University…” or I saw on your website that you have a big conference game coming up, I will try to make the game”

This goes a long way and it shows the coach that you have a real interest of the school and the team. If I receive an email like that, I will make sure that I reply to that potential student athlete.

I also think that it is important that the student and not the parent(s) are the driving force when communicating with the coach. Obviously the parents have a major role in the process, and especially the finances involved, but I look for players that are mature and independent, and can keep a conversation via the phone or in person without Mom answering the questions every time. Start with creating an email account in your own name.  Your parents can certainly help you drafting the email and help you out, but when I get an email from from a player named Justin Smith it is pretty obvious to me that I am in fact communicating with the Mom and not with Justin.

Once you have sent an email, wait a few days and then follow up with a phone call to the coach. It is amazing to me how few times this happens. A simple call to the coach — introducing yourself, checking to see if the coach has received your email and once again expressing your interest of the school and the team — would go a long way and make a very good impression on me. It tells me you are serious about your interest and that you are a mature and responsible young man. Once you have the coach (or the assistant coach) on the phone ask the coach if you can set up a visit to the school and come and meet with the coach.

Once you have a meeting set up, you need to prepare for the meeting. In my next entry I will discuss what you need to do to prepare yourself for such a meeting and how you can increase your chances of making a great impression.

Yours in Soccer!

Andreas Lindberg

Andreas Lindberg is the site director for Future Stars at Farmingdale State College.

Lindberg is also the current Head Coach for Nationally ranked LIU Post Men’s Soccer Team. Under his guidance the Pioneers won the East Coast Conference Championship in 2009 and 2012. Lindberg was chosen to the East Coast Conference Coach of the Year in 2009, 2011 and 2012.


ImageSKILL. Definition ‘Special Ability in a task, sport, etc.,esp ability acquired or developed by training’.

As an avid Soccer fan — be it as spectator, player or coach — skill is something that is always wonderful to see from players, especially in the game environment. With the UEFA Champions League resuming play it’s a great opportunity to see many of the most accomplished players in the world showing off their skills at the highest level.  Players like Cristiano Ronaldo (Real Madrid), Lionel Messi (Barcelona), and Robin Van Persie (Man Utd) are perhaps the more recognizable names we identify with when it comes to skill but these players – along with many others –  can be used as a visual aid for our youth players to strive towards in terms of skill.  At the highest level we see not only skill, but more importantly players performing at pace, whilst under pressure and showing great balance throughout.  As an active coach for players from the youth through collegiate level it is often the case that our players have ‘skill’ and show this in training at a comfortable pace, but when it comes to the game environment it is not always evident. The United States Soccer Federation (USSF) Best Practices for Coaching Soccer in the United States booklet states “The most fundamental skill in soccer is individual mastery of the ball and the creativity that comes with it”. To that end the focus of developing youth players should be to ensure our athletes have a sound technical base to allow them to apply the specific sports skills in the game environment. To give our players the best chance to succeed and perform in games, we as coaches should ensure every training session is well structured and follows suitable progressions whilst challenging our players to perform outside their ‘comfort zone’. There are a variety of coaching styles and methods, and it is important that a coach creates an environment that works for him/her and the players on the team. David Beckham was perhaps the most recognizable name in the professional game in the US in recent years and was famously quoted saying “I still look at myself and want to improve”. Hopefully we can encourage our youth players to have the same attitude and then enjoy the moments of skill that follow and celebrate them with our players.



As we are lucky to be witnesses to this incredible era of tennis we need to realize that it is more than just “great players” competing. Through modern sports science, psychology, training techniques, nutritional practices, and equipment, today’s players are reaching new heights. Even more important is the dedication, hard work, and commitment that they put into their profession.

In the 1980s John McEnroe stated that he did not enjoy practicing; in fact, he used his doubles play as his “practice.” He was one of the greatest doubles players in the world but in today’s game we see very few of the top men playing doubles. Martina Navratilova and Ivan Lendl began the era of physical conditioning which coincided with other sports improved training methods. Sport specific training has been continually evolving and allowing athletes in all sports to compete at incredible levels. In the Australian Open we saw some amazing matches that included Djokovic’s almost 5 hour win over Wawrinka and Ferrer’s marathon match over Amalgado (not to mention last year’s historic matches which included Djokovic over Nadal in the finals in an almost 6 hour match after a grueling battle in the semis against Andy Murray).

During his press conference, Djokovic said,

“I mean the people who don’t know tennis, who have never been in those kinds of situations would not truly understand what the player has to go through, not just when you prepare for a Grand Slam but also during a Grand Slam,” Djokovic said. “After five hours of match, you need to really put a lot of time into recovery, different kinds of recoveries.

“As I said, I understand that many people have many different views and opinions, and I respect that. But I’m doing everything that is legal, that is correct, that is natural that I can, possibly can, in my power. And it’s working well.” For Djokovic Recovery is the Routine, NY Times.

In addition to the physical toll that a match like this takes, one cannot underestimate the focus that is required to endure a 5 hour competition at that level. Tennis, in particular, is a unique sport in that there are no teammates to lean on or coaches to give you a mid-match game plan. Even the other individual sports do not compare – golfers have a caddy with them and boxers have their trainers in their corner.

Preparation requires more than just “hard work.” It entails working hard correctly and managing one’s time. An athlete needs to be committed but should also have the right people advising, training, and coaching them to optimize their hard work and make it efficient as simply “putting in more time” doesn’t cut it anymore.

It could be argued that the true student-athletes have an even more daunting task in balancing their commitment to their sport with their academic responsibilities. And younger children also need to find the right balance for their lives (and their families’ lives). However, the lesson of preparation that can be instilled in athletes of all ages is critical. It is something that can be transferred to every aspect of life. The bigger picture here is that we can teach work ethic to our young athletes in addition to helping guide them to a healthy lifestyle through sports. The “event” – match, game, tournament, test, report, project, etc. – requires time before, during, and after to achieve success.

Differentiating Goals

With the New Year and new seasons upon us and many of us making resolutions or goals for the year, it brings me to the question of expectations in sports.  In professional sports, the expectations are very clear – WIN. There is no higher level to achieve and therefore winning the championship whether it is the Super Bowl, Stanley Cup, World Series, Wimbledon, etc. is the goal. While some will consider anything less than the championship a failure, the reality is that only 1 player will win the Australian Open that starts today and 127 players lose; similarly, only one of the teams in the NFL will be the Super Bowl Champion on February 3rd while all of the other 31 teams are left to try again next year.

When it comes to children in sports, I think one of the most important things we as coaches and parents can do is create the “right” expectations for our children/players. However, this will need to be constantly adjusted and is probably different for different children on the same team. I also believe that children at most levels should focus on their own expectations and then it is not until they reach a certain level of competency that the “team’s” goals become more important.

P1030596Schools in our society have been differentiating instruction successfully and we must strive for this in all forms of youth development. At the early stages of a player’s introduction to a sport, it should be fun and the kids should learn the right way to play. As soon as competition is introduced, it is critical that the games be relatively close with all participants being on par with each other. A team or player that is put in the position of losing too often or being “blown out” in a game is going to get discouraged and not enjoy the sport and experience. Similarly, if some form of success is not achieved, then the child will again be discouraged and potentially lose self esteem. We as the parents and coaches must look objectively at our children to find the right “fit” for our child. While it is very difficult to be completely objective as a parent in evaluating our own child (often being too critical or overly optimistic), we must listen to the coaches who can provide the appropriate objective feedback. And the coaches must be honest with the parents, even if it means moving the child to a different program or a different coach.

It cannot be said enough but every child is unique and children look at the world differently than adults.

What are your goals for this upcoming year for each of your children/players? Are the parents’ and coaches goals aligned? Are the goals realistic while being challenging enough?